Guest post by Amy Milford – owner and founder of Darwin Family Life.
Firstly – CONGRATULATIONS! Getting the news you will be expecting twins is a rollarcoaster ride of emotions. I still remember the day I found I was expecting twins! For my whole pregnancy I rode this roller coaster of emotions and trying to prepare myself for motherhood with twins (and a toddler who was 21 months at the time they were born.)
So here are my couple of top tips for preparing for twins!
Having a single baby is totally different to having twins. I know because I have done both 😉 But the best thing I did when I was pregnant with my fraternal twins was connect with my local Multiple birth club. I have made some lifelong friends through my club and attending our weekly playgroup really helped save my sanity. These twin mums understood exactly what I was going through. The Australian Multiple Birth Association (AMBA) is the nation wide body that has hundreds of clubs around the country connected with it. You can find your local club on their website here. https://www.amba.org.au/
Connecting with other twin parents helps you start to understand and ask the million and one questions running through your head about preparing for twins. Our club has a closed Facebook group as we can connect anytime of day. What sort of pram you should get, how to sleep your newborn babies, what sort of routine etc. Every baby and set of twins is different but it is helpful to ask people who have been their before. Twinfo is another great new website that has numerous blogs and a community on Facebook. https://www.twinfo.c
om.au/ I wished they had been around when I had my twin babies!
When I was pregnant I got to 28 weeks and my Obstetrician said “you need to slow down or you will have them early.” I took his advice on board and from that moment on I refocused and took baby steps in my pregnancy – I focused on getting through another week, then another and another. I slowed down and did less. I finished up at work and accepted help. I wanted to get as far along as possible as I knew with twin pregnancy premature babies were a higher risk. I also then applied baby steps when I was raising three little kids under 2. Some days it would be literally getting through the day. It was a never ending cycle of feeding, cleaning, changing three little people…..but I survived but my mind set had to shift and focus on the day by day or even hour by hour at some points.
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I am a highly organised person by nature but I knew that having two newborn babies and a toddler that I would have to be organised. That meant getting things sorted BEFORE they arrived. I moved my toddler into her new room and the twins would be in the nursery room next to ours. We got cots assembled and clothes organised. We chatted to other twin parents about what were the “essential” baby items they recommended. I got some great tips for preparing for twins from them such as two playmats or one, one bouncer and one rocker etc. I ensured I had family support for the first few weeks and my Mum did massive cook ups and made quiches so I could pull one of the freezer so I knew I could have that and a bit of salad for lunch. Thank goodness for those quiches!! I probably would have gone without lunch more times if I didn’t have them! Which when you are breastfeeding two babies can go downhill very quickly.
Lastly, try to enjoy your pregnancy and newborn twins! Time will be a blurry haze and will go by so quickly. My twin boys turned 5 this year and it is a bit hard to believe! Take lots of photos and videos as your mind will forget.
Do you have any great tips for preparing for twins? Share below!
Amy Milford is the owner and founder of Darwin Family Life – a thriving online hub and community for Darwin Parents to connect and know what is happening in their community which was established in August 2017. Amy is a Mummy to four munchkins aged 7, twin 5.5 yr olds and a 2yr old. Her life is a bit of a whirlwind and calls it her Happy Chaos! Some days more happy, some days more chaos and other days in between! If you are in Darwin or have friends living in Darwin let them know about Darwin Family Life.